Dear Red Hot Mamas- February 2018

By: Red Hot Mamas

Published: February 15, 2018

“Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired”

                                                         -Robert Frost

Dear Red Hot Mamas,

Yes, Valentine’s Day is here and it, supposedly, is the most romantic day of the year. However, why can’t the rest of the year be romance days as well? In my opinion, they can when couples gain a greater understanding of one another.

We’ve all heard the adage “Love makes the world go round” but for many women its romantic love that ignites deep intimacy and passion. But foremost, I believe, women want to be made love to first from the neck up (and, a kiss is not enough). They want to feel appreciated by their partners. Women also value honesty and commitment in a relationship.

To make a relationship work, it’s necessary that you have thorough understanding of what your partner truly wants. It’s not unusual that what you want may be totally different than what your partner wants. In that case, compromise is needed for fulfillment.

Talking with your partner and communicating is stimulating and can be an incredible aphrodisiac. The number one turn-on for a woman is to have a partner who will listen, share, and connect with her. If it’s difficult to do so, talking to a professional therapist can help. And, if your partner can’t say what he/she means, perhaps another avenue to take is to have your partner write it down on a piece of paper, a greeting card, or even in an e mail. This way, for all those silent type men/women out there, it’s an easier way to express themselves.

So, in closing here are some things that couples have done which have heightened romance in their lives:


  • Talk to one another over breakfast
  • Make a point of always kissing before they go to sleep or go to work
  • Walk hand-in-hand together
  • Stay connected through word and deed
  • Listen, listen, listen to each other
  • Continually learn and grow together
  • Learn the art of loving compromise
  • Accept each other for their special traits and uniqueness
  • Are creative in their lovemaking allowing more foreplay, creativity and not rushing
  • Make their relationship a priority

I’d like to send a Valentine’s Day card each day of the week not only for my spouse, but to you all for the gift of your friendship. Those who give love, gather love. Happy Valentine’s Day.

Good Health to You All,

Karen Giblin