So, Guys, Let’s Talk About Menopause

By: Red Hot Mamas

Published: March 26, 2025

From the Editor…Karen Giblin

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

Dear Red Hot Mamas,

Menopause affects not only women but also their husbands and other family members. In that regard, quite a few men have spoken to me and have said that they wanted to approach the topic of menopause with their wife or partner, but they fear it would be a rather sensitive and touchy subject to bring up. They confessed that they simply didn’t have enough information to even know what to ask about or how to approach the subject of menopause.

In relationships, nothing is more important than communication, understanding and support. So, there are basic facts about menopause that men need to know about. In fact, the more men know about menopause, the better they can communicate, and the more easily they will be able to cope with the transition as a loving couple.

So, Guys, Let’s Talk About Menopause…

Menopause is a natural life stage that marks the end of a woman’s reproductive years. It is defined as one year after the end of a woman’s menstrual period. It occurs on average at age 51. A gradual decrease in estrogen production by the ovaries occurs during women’s mid-forties, leading to fluctuating serum levels of estrogen, and this brings on many symptoms of menopause that can affect their wellbeing. This is called the Menopause Transition or the Perimenopause.

By the Numbers

• Average age of natural menopause: 51 years
• Average age when natural menopause transition begins (perimenopause): 47 years
• Possible length of menopause transition: 1 to 12 years
• It can occur at any age if women have surgical menopause (bilateral oophorectomy) when both ovaries are removed; or if they undergo chemotherapy or radiation

Common Menopause Symptoms:

Common symptoms include changes in menstrual periods, hot flashes, night sweats, problems sleeping, fatigue, mood swings, anxiety, irritability, forgetfulness, vaginal dryness, loss of libido, muscle and joint pains and a host of other symptoms. Not every woman will have the same symptoms. These symptoms can come on suddenly and women can’t control them.

What Men Can Do for a Woman Going Through Menopause

Women deserve to know that they aren’t all alone as they go through menopause, which is why men should always strive to be a team as they unite with their partners. This could mean simple things such as asking her what she’s experiencing and do a lot of listening. Don’t start with trying to fix things and make suggestions what she should do. Women will feel dismissed if men do this and things will go south quickly.

It’s important for men to ask questions like: How was your day? How are you feeling? What can I do for you? Be attentive, let her talk and she will feel better. Also try helping her with the household chores. Any small gesture will help and be appreciated.

Lastly, men need to be patient with their loved ones, provide reassurance and embrace the changes their partners are going through. Couples can emerge more connected at menopause if they prioritize communication and embrace this as a normal life stage. It’s a chance for couples to educate themselves about menopause and provide emotional support in respect to the changes they might face. And, finally, let her know you love and appreciate her often.

Good Health to You All,

 

Karen Giblin