Woman worrying about finances
Worrying about finances

Do Not Keep Your Financial Fears To Yourself!

By: Red Hot Mamas

Published: January 5, 2015

Menopause – the New Truth Serum

I do believe that honesty is the best policy, for the most part, but sometimes one must employ a touch of diplomacy depending on the situation. However, hormones and the art of tactfulness don’t always go hand in hand. Especially once you’ve lived a bit of a life. I always remember Thumper in Bambi saying “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” In theory, that’s a sound principle. Until your estrogen and progesterone start to do their midlife dance. Then it’s more like damn the torpedoes!

Have you discovered you’ve arrived at a new, as yet unexplored level of honesty in your life? One where it’s increasing difficulty to curb your feelings?
One where you knowingly blurt out the hurtful truth?
Has your patience exceeded the limits of your medication? I know I have.

I’m not entirely sure if it’s a combination of menopause and age (which in and of itself is already combustible!) but I have zero tolerance for more things in my life now than ever. Some of those things include but aren’t limited to: people who pay with checks ahead of me in the grocery line, automated customer service, and aggressive drivers. In these scenarios, I don’t necessarily do anything, but I can feel my blood pressure perking up.

So where do we feel safe to actually blow our tops? At home.

And there’s the rub. The people we love the most in the world and who help us get through these challenging times more often feel the lash of our emotional fury.

But I digress. This is, after all, supposed to be an article that addresses menopause and finances.


In the midst of all the other challenges we encounter, financial concerns can undo you and your family if you don’t pull together.

Statistically, the number one reason midlife couples divorce is due to money issues.
Not menopause.
Furthermore, those of us who are anywhere from 35 to 70 years of age are members of the second generation of working women.
In some cases, we solely support our families.

We may have been tough and organized on the job while being cool cucumbers at home raising our kids, and through it all, master jugglers with our finances. I can’t juggle anymore.
I can’t keep the balls up in the air and it makes me dizzy.

We need to talk to our spouses, or adult children or financial advisors.
Explore all your options.
Get a plan. Draft a map.
You wouldn’t take a road trip in a strange city without a map or sat nav. Why would you do that with your financial journey? 

Let 2015 be the year you let yourself be heard! And not like someone with Tourettes… ~ Liz Allen